Dear Norma Jean,
Since Thanksgiving you have been asked many times, “Are you ready for Christmas?” You have stumbled on answering because there is no simple response. If you say yes, you are not being truthful and if you say no, there will be more questions to follow and you really don’t want to go there. Being aware of your emotions, you feel like acknowledging in a tearful way that this does not feel like a season of joy. Instead it feels like a season of expectations and comparison. Wow, how would others react to that?
Are you ready for what? Putting up decorations by decking the halls with boughs of holly? Fa la la! Are you listening to carols exclaim what you are supposed to feel? Jack Frost nipping at your toes, well yes, you are feeling the winter blast of cold air chill you to the bone. Are you overwhelmed by trying to figure out what gifts to give that you can’t afford? Wish it was as simple as, “All I want for Christmas is my two front teeth.” But you stuff all of these thoughts because you sense that it is necessary to dance and prance with bells on your toes.
So how will you move forward? First you have to be aware that these are just thoughts. No one is to blame even if you try to justify why you feel this way. You may look to the past and analyze what it was like when you were a child. Another time that your mind has jumped to was when your children were young and seeing their excitement or disappointment in what they were expecting in their stockings or under the tree.
But what about now? You have a choice! Once you are aware that you are in charge of how you feel, you can look at this differently. ACIM (A Course in Miracles) Lesson 135 says, “If I defend myself, I am attacked.” You feel like you must protect yourself from what is happening because it must contain what threatens you. Defense is frightening because it stems from fear. So why are you afraid of the upcoming holiday? As this lesson continues it declares that these are the thoughts in need of healing.
“A healed mind does not plan because it carries out the plans that it receives through listening to wisdom that is not its own.” You hear these words and the wall of resistance rises up to insist that you must be in charge. Well, you are in charge of which thought system you will follow. So will it be fear and expectation? Will you attempt to figure it out on your own as you push through until it is over and be miserable along the way? Or will you ASK your Higher Spirit for what is best and take a deep breath or two or ten and listen for guidance? If you choose the latter, you will enjoy the season with peace and calm in your heart. Now you get to decide, it’s as simple as that!
With Love, Your Higher Self
ACIM Lesson 28 – Above all else I want to see things differently.
Reflection from NJ: I choose to see Christmas differently this year.